"I love my husband and want to share things with him; but he turns cold and refuses to listen or talk. Why?"
Consider the following if you are the non-talker and want to save your marriage. (If you are the talker, please feel free to give this to your loved one. No, don't throw it at him/her... give it with a kiss and say, "I thought you might find this interesting.")
* Maybe you are angry at someone; or are just mad by nature and that's your comfort zone...
* Or you grew up in a home where they didn't talk...
* Or perhaps your mate is an overbearing personality and you feel you can't get your ideas across...
* Or maybe you just aren't wired to talk...
* Or you always end up being put down in a discussion so don't want to risk it anymore
* Or you are feeling sorry for yourself
* Or you wanted to marry someone else way back when and it didn't happen so you feel bitter about the one you are married to now...
* Or you don't want to accept the job of supplying another's needs
* Or you enjoy irritating or hurting others (you have a mean streak)
* Or you are punishing your spouse for something
* Or you don't want anybody invading your personal world. You are selfish
Ummmmmmmm - welllllllll - let me say this as nicely as I know how
For the first 7 listed above - SO WHAT! And for the last 4 - GROW UP. This is not all about you. If you want to have a loving, giving, gentle relationship, if you want to save your marriage, then do what you don't want don't need don't care about and start talking. You have no justification.
And just for the record you will love the results. There is nothing better than communication with someone else who loves you, unless you're quarrelling. If you argue more than talk, you need our books and material at our saving marriages worldwide site. We tell you how to have the right kind of argument.
We know of far too many marriages that couples felt weren't worth saving because one person in the relationship wouldn't talk or didn't know how to talk, so we've devoted a lot of material to the reasons why it's so difficult to communicate in marriage relationships. Our books clarify in detail why some people won't or can't talk, why some people talk waaaaay too much, and why couples don't identify with one another. Your marriage can be healed and/or made better. It is far easier than you think. Join us and find out how.
Margaret Hardisty International Best Selling Author Love Relationship Headquarters www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com
Consider the following if you are the non-talker and want to save your marriage. (If you are the talker, please feel free to give this to your loved one. No, don't throw it at him/her... give it with a kiss and say, "I thought you might find this interesting.")
* Maybe you are angry at someone; or are just mad by nature and that's your comfort zone...
* Or you grew up in a home where they didn't talk...
* Or perhaps your mate is an overbearing personality and you feel you can't get your ideas across...
* Or maybe you just aren't wired to talk...
* Or you always end up being put down in a discussion so don't want to risk it anymore
* Or you are feeling sorry for yourself
* Or you wanted to marry someone else way back when and it didn't happen so you feel bitter about the one you are married to now...
* Or you don't want to accept the job of supplying another's needs
* Or you enjoy irritating or hurting others (you have a mean streak)
* Or you are punishing your spouse for something
* Or you don't want anybody invading your personal world. You are selfish
Ummmmmmmm - welllllllll - let me say this as nicely as I know how
For the first 7 listed above - SO WHAT! And for the last 4 - GROW UP. This is not all about you. If you want to have a loving, giving, gentle relationship, if you want to save your marriage, then do what you don't want don't need don't care about and start talking. You have no justification.
And just for the record you will love the results. There is nothing better than communication with someone else who loves you, unless you're quarrelling. If you argue more than talk, you need our books and material at our saving marriages worldwide site. We tell you how to have the right kind of argument.
We know of far too many marriages that couples felt weren't worth saving because one person in the relationship wouldn't talk or didn't know how to talk, so we've devoted a lot of material to the reasons why it's so difficult to communicate in marriage relationships. Our books clarify in detail why some people won't or can't talk, why some people talk waaaaay too much, and why couples don't identify with one another. Your marriage can be healed and/or made better. It is far easier than you think. Join us and find out how.
Margaret Hardisty International Best Selling Author Love Relationship Headquarters www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com
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